I strongly believe it all starts with our thoughts. If we tell ourselves positive things, we will be happier, more productive, feel energized and feel good about ourselves. And in turn, we will have an optimistic outlook on life and those we share it with. If you actually start listening to what you’re thinking, you’ll know whether you are generating positive and abundant thoughts or critical, angry or anxious thoughts. Tune in and start listening. It is important to choose our words and the tone in which we say them. We often don’t realize how powerful we are and that our words, whether positive or negative, have a huge impact on other people.
As I write this blog, I am reminded of this quote:
“Take care of your thoughts when you are alone, and take care of your words when you are with people.”
Here’s a story I’d like to share with you. I recently made plans to watch a playoff game with a friend. She asked me if another friend of hers could join us and I said of course. I planned to pick her up at 5:30. At 5:15, I texted her to say I was running 15 minutes late. She texted back and said cool, and to meet her at the bar because her friend who was joining us was already there.
I walked into the bar and the two of them were sitting at a table. My friend introduced us since we had never met. Much to my surprise, her friend yelled at us for being late. Instead of a gracious “Hi, great to meet you”, she immediately expressed her anger. I have to admit, I don’t like to be yelled at, but I managed to remain cool and polite. I proceeded to engage her in conversation the entire evening. This woman is smart, capable and very successful. What was going on for her to yell at us like she did?
There was a time in my life that I would have called her “high maintenance”. Instead, I wondered if she was anxious, stressed, or had a bad day. I didn’t ask her directly so I can only guess. What I do know is, she certainly wasn’t thinking good thoughts. It’s simple: if you think good thoughts, you will say good things.
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