Are you scared to say how you feel and what you really want?
As women, we’re accustomed to not asking for what we want. Some of us are even uncomfortable knowing what we want. As if there’s something aggressive about being clear and then asking for it. The truth is, we admire this quality in men but not in women. A double standard, for sure.
Here’s a conversation I had with a client last week:
She’s been divorced for 5 years and a man she dated before she married reached out to her on Facebook. He had just lost his wife to cancer. When they met, it was like old times. They get together periodically and talk on the phone for hours.
She was confused. She didn’t know where he stood. She was having a hard time focusing because she was obsessing over this relationship. She said she would wait to see what happens. Then she opened up to me:
He is the love of my life.
When I heard that, I said:
Why wait. Tell him how you feel. That you enjoy spending time together. How he has always held a special place in your heart. That he is the love of your life! That in the future when he’s ready, you’d like to date him.
My client told him how she feels. He said he wasn’t ready yet and they agreed to be good friends – for now. The result? My client feels better. She feels empowered. She feels free. She’s now super focused on doing things to better herself and her life.
Is there something getting in the way of asking for what you want?
Why wait. Get clear and take deliberate action – today.
