I was getting a mani pedi on Saturday at a local salon in my home town of Sausalito. The two women doing my nails were talking about how they wanted breast implants and wished they had pink skin vs yellow.
I was struck by the conversation.
No matter what age, ethnicity, demographic, life circumstance, demographic – all women – at some point – have wanted to be different in some way.
We’ve been socialized to not love ourselves for who we are. The media has brainwashed us, told us what beauty is and isn’t. The result is many of us feel shame and defective in some way. The lack of confidence and self esteem makes us feelnot good enough. We fall into the trap of thinking that if only we change our bodies, our faces, we will feel better and, life will be better.
What I think we all yearn for is a deep level of ease and a knowing that we are OK, just as we are. No matter what we do to change ourselves on the outside, if we don’t also change our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves, change won’t last. The truth is,
confidence is an inside job.
I used to want straight hair, olive skin, a smaller nose, smaller thighs. Sometimes I still do 🙂 but for the most part, I’ve learned to love and accept myself – just as I am. I’m super grateful for my healthy body and all it does for me.
You are OK just the way you are. It’s time to fall deeply in love with yourself and your body. Give your body some lovin’ and gratitude – every single day.
