Expectations – it’s difficult not to have them.
We’re ambitious, we have a grand vision for ourselves and our lives. We imagine what we want, we go after it and we want it to look a certain way. When reality doesn’t meet our vision, we naturally get disappointed. Or sad. Or frustrated. Or angry.
Our daily lives are full of expectations, of how situations will be like or what another person will do. You know what I mean.
You don’t get the promotion when you deserve it
A friend flakes on you at the last minute
Your “dream” vacation ends up being a “reality” vacation
After extensive interviews, you don’t get the job
The launch is a flop
Your partner/spouse doesn’t do what he/she says he/she will do
Your Match or Tinder date looks 10 years older than his/her profile picture
The restaurant that took 2 months to get into is just ok
Expectations are a breeding ground for not feeling good. They block our happiness. They keep us living in the future rather than in-joying living in the present. By all means, have high standards, intentions, clear goals and a vision for where you want to go. But try your best to not get attached to a picture, a certain outcome.
You get to decide whether or not to fall into the expectation trap. Ease up on yourself, and the people in your life. Celebrate the now. Be in the moment. Set yourself up to be pleasantly surprised.Your happiness is up to You.
