I’ve talked with many clients, friends and family this week. An underlying theme in my conversations is a need to please others.
I get it. I was once an over functioning people pleaser too. We were taught to be nice, because that’s what good girls and boys do. We’ve been socialized to accommodate, to feel responsible for other people’s feelings, to not rock the boat, to keep the peace,to seek approval and as my mom used to say, to “keep it together.” It stems from a deep need to fit in and be liked.
There’s a cost of being a people pleaser. it’s a trap. When you care for others more than yourself, it’s a breading ground for low self esteem and confidence. When you’re focused on meeting everyone else needs, you lose yourself and lose sight of your own dreams. Which can result with living without intention, clarity and conviction.
So how do we stop being a people pleaser? First, let’s understand why we do what we do. The truth is we receive benefits from limiting habits and behavior.
Ponder these questions to get out of the people pleaser muck:
What has being overly nice given you? What’s the cost?
What do you get from accommodating others? Truly, what’s the price?
How does not speaking your truth serve you? How has it inhibited you?
What does putting others first give you? What’s been its toll on you?
How would your life change if you were NOT addicted to pleasing others?
We all want to be loved and acknowledged and people pleasing keeps us safe. AND it also drains our energy and joy. It holds us back from owning our brilliance and inner authority. It keeps us from owning who we are and what we want.
You can be nice and helpful AND have boundaries. You can be 100% Yourself. To achieve greater levels of success, ditch the people pleaser trap. It’s the first step to becoming super powerful AND free.
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