Someone asked me the other day if I’ve written about boundaries. My first reaction was of course! I looked at all my blogs and realized I’ve referenced boundaries but not written about them directly. Here’s my attempt to do just that.
We’ve all heard about the importance of healthy boundaries but many of us struggle to create them. Here are some indicators when we don’t have them:
We say yes to people or situations that don’t interest us.
We accommodate and over function for others.
We give unsolicited advice.
The underlying reason? We want to please. We want others to like us. We want others to be happy. We get emotionally involved and care too much.
Caring deeply may sound all well and good. We were brought up to care more about others well being above our own. It’s what we do. The truth is, when we overextend ourselves, it leads to exhaustion, stress and even burnout. Eventually, not having boundaries will get the best of us.
If this resonates, ask yourself these questions:
Am I doing what I want or am I doing it out of obligation?
How do I feel when I am with this person?
Why do I feel I need to offer advice?
You can be kind. You can be helpful. You can prioritize what you want. To realize your highest potential of success, ditch the people-pleasing and stay in your own lane. Create boundaries that serve you and the people in your life.
