I’ve been working on Radical Acceptance for the last few weeks.
It’s natural to reject what is happening in our lives if it’s not something we like. Our brains are programmed to do so. We push it away, get angry, frustrated, ‘pull a nutty’ or run for the hills. We question why, we deny, we manipulate, we negotiate. We’ll try anything before we accept.
Here are a few real struggles that my clients and friends are facing right now:
Yet ANOTHER project dumped in her lap
Leadership not listening
24/7 with spouse/partner/family
The loss of a parent
You want different things
Noise and distraction of construction (that’s mine!)
Lack of ‘breathing room’
“Independent young adults” living at home
The guy you were dating dissed you
It’s not easy to accept the current reality. It’s a process. Yet, it takes a lot more energy to resist than accept. Resisting is like a power struggle with yourself and never a win win. When I push away or reject what’s happening in the moment, it’s usually because I’m feeling vulnerable, misunderstood or not heard. How about you?
Feel your feelings. Once you do, you get to decide whether to turn your thoughts towards accepting OR keep rejecting reality. Decide what you’re committed to and let that propel you forward.
“Be the change you wish to see in the world” ~ Mathatma Ghandi
