by Amy Matthews | Apr 16, 2021 | In-Power, Mindset |
I’ve had several conversations with clients this week who told me they are in a rut. They all want to move forward in an area of their lives yet they are struggling.
The specific reasons differ, but a common theme is they are judging themselves. They have thoughts like: I feel so stuck! This isn’t like me! Why am I not taking action? Why can she/he/they move forward and I can’t? Am I going to be like this forever? I am such a loser! If you feel at all this way, know you are not alone! We’ve all been there at some point in our lives.
Here’s a process to help you move through a rut:
1. Acknowledge you are feeling stuck.
Accept where you’re at and most importantly, have compassion for yourself! The moment you do, things will start to shift.
2. Begin to ask: Why do I feel this way?
Maybe you are exhausted. Or grieving. Or not connected with your purpose.Or really scared of change. Whatever your reason, give yourself some space and breathing room, as much as you need. Write down your thoughts or hit record while you’re out for a walk. Your intention is to get it all out of your head!
3. Consider the reasons staying stuck serves you.
The truth is, there is always a reason! Perhaps staying where you’re at is comfortable and safe, even though you may feel miserable most of the time. This may be an aha moment. Jot down your answers!
4. Then ask: Am I more committed to staying stuck or getting unstuck?
Be clear and honest with yourself in the moment. Your answer will give you information. Depending upon your situation, you may not be ready to move forward and that’s okay. Timing is everything.
5. Once you are ready and committed to moving forward, ask this:
What reoccurring belief is keeping me from what I want? It could be something like: What if I fail? What if I get rejected? What will people think of me? Who am I to think I can be or have that?
When we move out of our comfort zone, limiting beliefs always pop up, especially, when we decide to go after what we want most. The truth is, these beliefs holding us hostage are never true! It’s our job to bust through them and get to the other side, where our abundant life awaits.
by Amy Matthews | Mar 18, 2021 | Inspiration, Mindset |
When something surprises us or happens that we don’t like, our gut reaction is to reject it, judge it or go into victim mode around it. We try to make sense of it, understand why it’s happening and our emotions go into overdrive.
When you invest time and energy into something that doesn’t work out, it sucks. Here’s a story I want to share:
Earlier in my career, after climbing the corporate ladder, I joined a 30 person, tech start-up as VP of Sales. During my first interview with the CEO, we instantly hit it off and I was super excited when I received an offer to join the company.
I started the job on a Monday and by Friday, I realized I had made a terrible mistake. I mean a BIG one. The CEO was 30, super smart, had a big ego and was inexperienced. That I knew before I accepted the position. What I didn’t know was that he was a control freak and wanted to monitor my every move, and every person in the company. Not exactly my cup of tea.
Instead of accepting that I made the wrong choice and quitting, I resisted the situation. I fought the truth. I said to myself, I can make it work! Yikes, was I wrong. The situation only got worse. I stuck it out for a few more months but I was beyond stressed and miserable every single day. By the time I left the company, I was a big, hot, disempowered mess.
It took me awhile to learn that no person, relationship, job or organization was worth putting ahead of my own personal happiness. If I had the wisdom I do today, I would have cut my losses, learned from the situation and not looked back.
Ride the horse in the direction it’s going. Don’t resist. If the horse is going where you don’t want to go, change direction. Decide where you want to go next, take the reins and enjoy the ride.
by Amy Matthews | Mar 9, 2021 | Business, Inspiration |
Whatever You Want is one of my inspirations for what I do.
My clients see this written on a huge, painted chalkboard that I have behind my office desk. I took this photograph over six years ago when I was at Frenchies, the amazing restaurant in Paris. If you haven’t been, it’s a must. I mean, you got to go. There is a Frenchies in London too. Either will rock your world.
One of my greatest joys is witnessing clients, teams, friends, family – you name it – get the results they want. If you set an intention, get clear on your authentic strengths and super powers, get into consistent action, stay open to possibilities that you hadn’t dreamed of and allow the magic to unfold, you will get whatever it is you want. The process works every time.
I have helped countless clients:
Find their dream job
Get the promotion
Develop a new business
Expand the vision of their brand
Increase income
Gain leadership visibility
Secure investors
Find business partners
Create soul level partnerships
Communicate powerfully
Feel grace and ease on a daily basis
What one thing do you want right now that if you had it, would rock your world? If you can dream it, you can have it.
I can help you get it. It’s just what I do.
Sign up for a free 45 minute clarity call with me here.
by Amy Matthews | Mar 5, 2021 | Business, Mindset |
My sister gave me the above card recently – LOL. I can’t tell you how much it makes me smile! I keep it on my desk for inspiration if I feel alone or having a hard day. Because we all have times when we need a little extra support.
Here are a few recent situations with clients:
One client has worked diligently to get a promotion over the past year. She has grown tremendously and consistently receives positive feedback that she is greatly exceeding expectations, yet when review time came around, she didn’t get the promotion. She was told to work on gaining more exposure to her leadership team. She is giving a presentation to them next week so we’re going to do a trial run together so she nails it. I have her back.
Other clients are looking for new positions and need help editing their resumes, LI profiles, positioning themselves, interview prep and staying confident through the process. I have their back.
Another super accomplished client is starting his own consulting gig. He is a self professed collaborator and says he is better working with another. It’s just how he is wired. So we’re working together on his brand clarity and defining his service offerings. I have his back.
When you are stretching and reaching for something new, there is nothing better than knowing you are fully supported by someone who is invested in your success.
No matter what’s next for you on your path, I’ve got your back. Sign up for a free 30 minute clarity call with me here.
by Amy Matthews | Feb 18, 2021 | Inspiration, Mindset |
With so many things out of our hands these days – whether it’s COVID, a job falling through the cracks, a re-org, a health scare, unprecedented weather in Texas, a house falling out of contract – whatever it may be – the unexpected is the new black.
When things happen that come out of left field, it’s easy to jump to the worst case scenario. Here are a few good reminders for when “Unexpected” happens:
1. Before getting your panties in a bundle, take a time out.
Rein in your mind. Switch your fearful thoughts to thoughts about the best case scenario instead. Stay present to the situation, no matter how difficult it is.
2. Get advice.
People at their core want to help. Reach out and be willing to receive! Find someone who can give you the expertise or wisdom you need in the moment.
3. Try not to play the pity party card.
The truth is, shit happens in life – all the time. You are not alone. If you can embrace that, you will feel grateful and connect with what’s most important to you.
4. A positive attitude, always wins.
Having a positive attitude and not flexing your worry muscle can make most situations turn for the better. It’s not always easy, I know.
5. Learn and grow from the experience.
Whatever the situation and whatever the outcome, decide to grow from it. You can let the experience make you resentful or it can fuel you to be your best. Choose your best.
