by Amy Matthews | Sep 22, 2020 | Blog, In-Power, Inspiration |
Ruth Bader Ginsberg paved the way for equality and justice for all. She had such a huge impact on our lives, it’s hard to fathom she’s gone.
RGB often quoted Justice Louis Brandeis’ famous line:
“The greatest menace to freedom is an inert people.”
So what do we do when we lose a trailblazer, an icon, and our role model?
We empower ourselves to speak up and share our point of view.
We take action towards what we believe in.
We fight for what we care about.
And, as RBG said, we do it in such a way, that will lead others to join us.
We all have the capacity to make an impact – whether big or small. I’ve talked to many people who feel powerless and want to know what they can do.
Here are four things to do right now to make a difference:
1. Contribute money – especially to flip the Senate, every bit helps
2. Talk to a family member or golfing buddy about racial injustice
3. Talk to your friend who hasn’t decided who to vote for
4. Initiate a conversation with your colleague about intrinsic bias
Drum up the courage. Have uncomfortable conversations.
Be willing to go where you haven’t before.
While being curious, inquisitive, and open.
Be THE Example. Let’s make Ruth proud of us.
by Amy Matthews | Sep 11, 2020 | Blog, Mindset |
We’re living in a world of Extremes.
Extreme fires
Extreme temperatures
Extreme smoke
Extreme ash falling from the sky
Extreme shootings
Extremists everywhere
So how do we deal with such a vast range without going into fear, numbing or tuning out?
Here are a few blogs that are good reminders on how to deal.
5 Tips for Self Care
How to Feel Grateful When You Don’t
How to Deal with Uncertainty
Do your best to accept the current situation. Talk it out with family and friends. Focus on super small goals to feel a sense of accomplishment. That’s what I’m doing.
This too shall pass. #Faith.
by Amy Matthews | Sep 3, 2020 | Blog, Mindset |
Along with the daily eruptions in the media that distract and create fear, so many of us have more on our plates right now. Some of the issues my clients are dealing with may resonate with you.
Homeschooling kids, nursing a terminally ill parent, personal health problems, an adopted newborn baby, chaos at work, relationship hiccups, company acquisition, reorgs, leadership issues. The hurricanes and fires wreaking havoc. It’s an intense time and emotions are running at an all-time high.
Anger is everywhere. People lashing out on social media, rage against our economy, racial injustice and recent killings, the emotionally charged political climate. An ever-growing list of conflict and dissonance. If anger is welling up inside, you are not alone!
Anger is a thermometer that tells us when our boundaries have been crossed. It indicates where we stand and what we believe in. Anger is a powerful and empowering emotion because we get to decide how we respond to it.
Before you send a text or create a post describing your outrage, or share how pissed off you are or yell at someone you love, think about your why:
Am I sharing because I don’t know how to process my jumbled emotions? Or, am I sharing to create connection and inspire positive action?
There is a big difference between acknowledging our anger and sharing it with others. Anger and rage are contagious. Just like Covid, we all have a responsibility to stop the spread.
Next time you feel anger bubbling up, slow down, take a few deep breaths and feel what you’re feeling. Your feelings matter and are completely justified. Once you’ve cooled your jets, communicate with clarity, connection, courage, and compassion.
It’s the only proven way people listen, engage, and respond. It’s the only way to get the outcomes you want.
by Amy Matthews | Aug 28, 2020 | In-Power, Mindset |
I am disheartened by the divisiveness in our country.
It’s as if we live in two different worlds. After watching the DNC last week and the RNC this week, it’s never been more clear to me. It’s uncanny to see the juxtaposition between the two messages – one of unification and inclusion and the other of divisiveness and fear.
If you are feeling rage, sadness, or fear, believe me – you are not alone.
So I’ve been asking myself this question:
What am I going to do about it?
I have options, as we all do. I can stand in distraction and paralysis. I can stand in hope. Or, I can put my courage badge on, speak my truth, and stand in action – until the day of the election.
Years ago, I led a business development team that sold technology solutions to new emerging telecommunication providers. It was an entrepreneurial endeavor and we developed relationships with every single potential client. We listened, we built trust, we proposed solutions, we overcame objections. What all experienced sales people do. We moved mountains to win business so no matter the outcome, we wouldn’t look back and say if only we had done xyz to win the business. Then and now, my philosophy is the same – #NoRegrets.
Hope is not a strategy. If we stand for what we believe in, take action and give it our all, we can shape the course of history. We can influence the election based on what we do today, tomorrow and the next day.
If you are ready to get into action and don’t know how, hit reply, I’ve got ideas.
by Amy Matthews | Aug 12, 2020 | In-Power, Mindset |
As humans, we will do anything in our power to avoid change. We like comfortable and predictable. Many of us are willing to put up with a ton of pain – whether it be physical, mental, or emotional – before we choose to change.
Why? Because change is hard to do. Change takes effort. Change takes sweat. Change requires a deep level of commitment. The secret to change is being more committed to the future than the past or present.
You say you want to lose 10 pounds, it’s up to you
You say you want to increase your revenues two-fold, it’s up to you
You say you want to find your dream job, it’s up to you
You say you want to develop your leadership skills, it’s up to you
You say you want to find your soulmate, it’s up to you
You say you want to be happier, it’s up to you
You say you want to stop worrying about the future, it’s up to you
If only you could wave a magic wand and get exactly what you want. The truth is, no one can do it for you but you don’t have to do it alone. Find a therapist or a healer, hire a relationship/dating coach or work with me as your business and leadership consultant. Set yourself up for success by creating a support team around you that can help you get the results you want.
Once you choose to be more than you think and decide to not go it alone, that’s when real change happens.
