by Amy Matthews | Feb 25, 2020 | Business, In-Power |
I talk to people transitioning in their careers almost on a daily basis, both clients and potential clients alike. Time to rant and lend perspective on this week’s conversations.
Two potential clients, a man, and a woman, successful tech leaders in career transition. They both reached out for help, looking for clarity and direction as they initiate their new job search. It makes perfect sense to me as their needs are aligned with many of my clients. When we embark on something new, it’s fitting to want a clear path forward, especially for those of us who are high achievers. We want to do it right, the first time.
After listening to their unique backgrounds and situations, I responded in a similar fashion.
The opportunity in front of you is to:
Define who you are today – not 5 years ago when you accepted your last position
Define your superpowers so you leverage them in your next position
Create your authentic brand – from the inside out and reflect it in all your communication
Let go of old identities, personas and limiting beliefs that are based in the past
Define an intention and parameters you want in your next position
Create a strategy and action plan to get the position that’s the perfect fit
They responded in a similar fashion too.
Thanks Amy. You get me and your process resonates. I want to work with you. Before I commit, I need to talk it over with my spouse/partner. See what they think.
I truly understand that answer.
We often need to talk over decisions with a partner, especially when it involves a financial commitment. Plus, it’s always a good idea to think about a decision before we make it – whether that decision is working with a career and business coach, or another decision that requires us to be All In.
Before you initiate a conversation with someone you’re in partnership with, ask yourself these 3 questions:
How much do I want this?
Am I looking for permission or buy-in?
What is the best approach to gain buy-in and support?
Be intentional with your communication and create the outcomes you want.
Give yourself permission to be your own authority.
by Amy Matthews | Feb 18, 2020 | Business, Mindset |
When a topic comes up three times in a week, I usually write about it. I am compelled to write today about getting real and seeing the truth in every situation. Yep. It’s time to take off the rose-colored glasses.
Here are a few examples of what I am talking about:
A prospective client says he/she doesn’t want to work with your company but you are convinced you can change his/her mind
The person you are romantically involved with tells you he/she wants to ‘just be friends’ and you say, he/she will come around
Your partner says he/she doesn’t want to go to therapy to work on your relationship but you think you can persuade him/her to go
Your boss tells you that you’re not working out in your position and you work harder to prove yourself
It’s not easy to face the truth, especially when we don’t like it. Many of us want to see what we want to see. We’d rather run away, cajole, manipulate, sweet talk our way out of it, blame another or brainwash ourselves into thinking we can will what we want to happen to fruition. Rather than accepting what the other person is telling us, we’d rather deny it.
Next time you anticipate having a difficult conversation with someone who has a very different perspective, use these 5 steps to ensure a connected and constructive conversation:
1. Take what the other person tells you at face value. Believe what they say. Period.
2. Don’t judge, react or make the other person wrong. Leave your emotions out of it.
3. Ask Why. Be curious and open to the other person’s point of view.
4. Don’t take what they say personally. Seriously, it’s never about you.
5. Accept their truth. There is no black and white in any situation.
Truth is power because that’s when things can change. Once you know the truth, you can pivot. You can create options. You can create possibilities. You can create choices you didn’t know you had! And, you get to decide what truly empowers you and choose the best option for you.
The truth will set you free.
by Amy Matthews | Feb 11, 2020 | Business, In-Power, Inspiration |
I was at Rancho la Puerta last week, an amazing wellness and fitness retreat in Tecate, Mexico. Have you been? I was honored to be a speaker for the week. I went there 5 years ago as a guest and forgot how magical it is! Amazing early morning hikes, organic plant-based food, all sorts of fitness classes, mindfulness classes, inspiring performers and speakers. It’s a soulful and rejuvenating place because of its sacred land and its people are kind, warm and friendly.
We can learn so much from the Mexicans. They lead with their hearts, then their heads, rather than the other way around. They are insightful and wise. I was reminded of my corporate days when I ran a Latin America for a tech company. Back then, I was an intense, over performer with a big job. I traveled constantly and my entire identity was wrapped up in what I did.
I was focused on my performance and super stressed. Truth be told, I wasn’t happy.
My team in Mexico City taught me a lot. I began to understand that you can enjoy your life without sacrificing your career. That you can prioritize your loved ones over your work. That you are valued for who you are, not what you do. That you are enough, just the way you are. That happiness and ease are a birthright. That authenticity and kindness always rule. That leading with your heart is IN.
Limitless, is my leadership program for ambitious, high performers who want more joy, adventure, confidence, ease, and greater success. It’s possible to create a life that is so expansive and inspiring, just thinking about it makes you want to get down and boogie. To learn more about Limitless, book a clarity call with me here.
You can have your cake and eat it too.
by Amy Matthews | Jan 28, 2020 | Business, Mindset |
We all have Internal conflicts. You know what I mean, when your mind is in a constant tug of war. One of the best ways to hold yourself back from achieving what you want most, is to want two opposing things at the same time.
A few examples:
You want to lose weight. And you are obsessed with eating ice cream.
You want to grow your business. And you spend all your time ‘on the business’.
You want to find a new job. And don’t want to look for a new position.
You want an intimate partnership. And you want to stay home and watch Netflix.
When we want two different and opposing things, we create resistance within ourselves. This makes us conflicted, creates confusion and mind mugginess which keeps us stuck.
To #Breakfree from this mental trap, ask yourself:
What is it I really want – right now? Not a month from now or 2 years from now. Right this very minute?
I reported to an executive years ago who was notorious for saying this.”You’re not a man without a plan. You can change a plan but you can’t change a no plan.”
I’d like to think that in today’s environment, he would have included “woman” in the above statement but you get my drift.
Empower yourself and make a choice. Create an action plan and commit to it 100%. If you don’t gain traction after some time, revisit your plan. You can always change it.
But you can’t change a “no plan”.
by Amy Matthews | Jan 15, 2020 | In-Power, Mindset |
Last week we discussed developing a plan that is simple, clear and attainable.
Now for the fun part. It’s time to get into strategic action.
We’ve all heard the term, work smarter, not harder. What does it really mean?
It’s staying focused on your priorities. It’s having discipline. It’s creating boundaries. Boundaries, not only with people but with your schedule. Time is finite and is the most precious and valuable resource there is.
Distraction will inevitably, rear its ugly head. Sometimes it’s in our control, sometimes not. You can turn off your devices when you’re working on a project deadline. You can block your calendar so you aren’t available. When you need clarity, you can ask your coach or a friend for help. But when your dog jumps up while sipping your morning coffee, spilling on your computer, pronouncing it dead, you have less control. (Yep, my distraction and lesson for the week).
Stuff will happen that you don’t plan or foresee. All you can do is manage your reaction to it. As my yoga teacher says, have radical acceptance of what is. Give 100% of what you can give – your best – every day. If a family emergency crops up or you didn’t sleep last night, your 100% may be less than on another day. That’s OK. Staying the Course is what’s important.
Say NO to distraction that is in your control.
Say YES to focus and getting ‘er done.
