by Amy Matthews | Aug 27, 2019 | In-Power |
We create most of the obstacles that are in our way.
A wise coach and healer I worked with some time ago said this:
If you say you want something and don’t have it, your desire to not have it is greater than your desire to have it.
Provocative, right?
We’ve been taught to fight obstacles, to attack them, to tackle them, to combat them, to defeat them. We put a ton of energy into them. We focus, we analyze, we strategize, we struggle, we analyze again. It’s as if we are at war with ourselves. It’s exhausting.
Mental traps that get in our way are limiting beliefs and thoughts, self doubt and negative self talk, mega fear and anxiety, addiction to distractions, procrastination and perfectionism.
What if instead of getting into a mental and emotional tizzy and battling it out, you put all your energy into creating what you really want?
Ask yourself these 3 questions:
What obstacles do I create?
Why do I?
How much do I really “want what I say I want?”
You can have anything you want but it takes clarity, confidence, conviction, commitment and a whole lot of action. And an unwavering trust and faith in yourself.
Use your mental and emotional energy – wisely. You got this.
by Amy Matthews | Aug 20, 2019 | Business, Mindset |
Confidence is the #1 issue facing women and girls today. What I mean, is a lack thereof.
We over perform, we overdo, we excel at all we do. We’re ambitious, we’re on it. We run circles around everyone. We expect so much from ourselves. And of course we have to look good while doing it all, too.
When I left the corporate world, I planned to take a year off. I was ecstatic. I was finally going to be free of the high pressure job, the endless red eye flights, the constant anxiety and worry. My adrenals were spent, I was spent. I blamed my stress and exhaustion on the job itself.
Two months into my one year sabbatical, instead of feeling a sense of ease, I was still driving myself. My todo list kept getting bigger and I had the same sense of urgency as when I was working. I was obsessed to get everything done, just so. Instead of feeling a sense of joy and freedom, I felt trapped.
I realized it wasn’t the job. It was me.
Our self worth and self esteem are wrapped up in our performance. We desperately want to be validated for who we are so we do more. As if our herculean efforts will somehow cover up and fill the void we feel deep down that we are not enough.
So many women I know are doing their lives this way. Are you?
I’m here to tell you it’s a vicious cycle. There is a better way.
True self confidence comes from a feeling from the inside. It’s feeling comfortable in your skin. It’s validating, yourself, for all that you are. It’s an unwavering belief that you are loved for who you are, not for what you do. Because you are more than enough.
The truth is, until we get a handle on this, we’ll never step fully into our power. Confidence and power go hand in hand.
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by Amy Matthews | Aug 13, 2019 | In-Power |
I’ve talked with many clients, friends and family this week. An underlying theme in my conversations is a need to please others.
I get it. I was once an over functioning people pleaser too. We were taught to be nice, because that’s what good girls and boys do. We’ve been socialized to accommodate, to feel responsible for other people’s feelings, to not rock the boat, to keep the peace,to seek approval and as my mom used to say, to “keep it together.” It stems from a deep need to fit in and be liked.
There’s a cost of being a people pleaser. it’s a trap. When you care for others more than yourself, it’s a breading ground for low self esteem and confidence. When you’re focused on meeting everyone else needs, you lose yourself and lose sight of your own dreams. Which can result with living without intention, clarity and conviction.
So how do we stop being a people pleaser? First, let’s understand why we do what we do. The truth is we receive benefits from limiting habits and behavior.
Ponder these questions to get out of the people pleaser muck:
What has being overly nice given you? What’s the cost?
What do you get from accommodating others? Truly, what’s the price?
How does not speaking your truth serve you? How has it inhibited you?
What does putting others first give you? What’s been its toll on you?
How would your life change if you were NOT addicted to pleasing others?
We all want to be loved and acknowledged and people pleasing keeps us safe. AND it also drains our energy and joy. It holds us back from owning our brilliance and inner authority. It keeps us from owning who we are and what we want.
You can be nice and helpful AND have boundaries. You can be 100% Yourself. To achieve greater levels of success, ditch the people pleaser trap. It’s the first step to becoming super powerful AND free.
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by Amy Matthews | Aug 6, 2019 | Business, In-Power |
I’m super excited to announce my new program, Woman UnRuled, Limitless!
Limitless is for ambitious, high performing women who want to live a life they truly desire, without sacrificing their careers. It’s a 4 month deep dive into what I’ve learned and know – as a technology executive, a builder of two entrepreneurial businesses and a self master of truth and knowledge. It combines leadership skills, self discovery, embracing all of who you are and a ton of practical wisdom, with one goal in mind:
To move out of your self imposed limitations, open to limitless possibility AND design the life of your dreams, with me as your guide, every step of the way.
Once you say goodbye to the stories and beliefs that don’t serve you, ditch the busy and get crystal clear on who you are and what you really want, guess what happens?
Your world truly opens up for You.
There’s never been a better time in history to be a woman. The doors are open yet we still struggle to own our power, to feel confident, to create boundaries, to step into the limelight, to feel joy and ease, to be as big and loud as we really are. It’s up to us to remove what’s in the way that limits us. It’s up to us to step through the doors to realize our full potential.
If you’re ready to #Breakfree and create a super powerful and free life full of abundance and magic, download Limitless here. Once you do, I’d love to hear from you. I want to hear what your biggest challenges are. I want to hear what your deepest desires are. I want to hear what you really want to create in your life.
“You’ve always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself”.
~ Glinda, Wizard of Oz
You are Limitless.
by Amy Matthews | Jul 30, 2019 | Business, In-Power |
Speaking our truth is essential to living a life of authenticity and passion. For many of us it’s not easy, we’d rather run for cover than to speak what’s really on our mind.
I think it’s hard because we care. We care deeply about the feelings of others, often more than we care about our own. We also fear we’ll get backlash and worry about the consequences. Here are some common fears of speaking our truth:
What if he goes ballistic?
What if she turns on me?
What if it jeopardizes my job?
What if it ends our relationship?
Can you relate to any of the above? I’ve helped many people throughout my life – clients, employees, teams, family and friends – get clear on what they want to say and say it, both verbally and in written communication. I learned this at the ripe age of 16, living with my parents who loved each other but had an acrimonious relationship. Hence, the beginning of my mediation skills.
The truth is, it’s not your job to manage the feelings of others. Your job is to:
Have the courage and speak from your heart
Keep it short and simple, two sentences to start the conversation
Communicate with clarity, confidence and compassion
Be real and present, don’t focus on the outcome
Don’t expect it to go perfectly. Like trying anything new, it takes practice!
Communicating authentically gives you greater power and freedom in your life. Who doesn’t want that? Try it. With experience, you will get the results you want, I promise.
If you have trepidation about communicating in a work situation or in your personal life, I can help.
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