by Amy Matthews | Jul 23, 2019 | Mindset |
We hear it all the time – live in the present moment. It’s harder than it sounds, right?
It’s easy to get attached to how we want things to be, especially when our hearts get involved. We experience a moment of exhilaration or joy, we get a taste of what we want most, so we want “it.” Here’s the thing: wanting “it” leads to having expectations and expectations, lead to disappointment.
It’s a vicious cycle, a mental trap that robs us from living in the present. I think it stems from a belief many of us formed in childhood, the belief that “I can’t or won’t get what I want.” Can you relate?
It’s time to call bullshit on this belief. Yep, bullshit. It’s important to understand where it came from and then let it go. It’s up to us to come up with a new empowering belief like:
I always get what I want
I trust myself and my choices
I am open to how things unfold
Allow yourself to embrace the moment, without analyzing the past or tripping on the future. Being present creates an experience. An experience creates the next one. And then the next. A set of experiences creates your life.
by Amy Matthews | Jul 22, 2019 | In-Power, Mindset |
We all have dreams. Some big, some small.
All is available to us, anything we want. But we first need to get out of our own way.
What usually holds us back is a core belief (or many) that we developed in childhood that we are still attached to. Without knowing it, these beliefs run us.
Some limiting core beliefs and thoughts are:
I’m not deserving of making tons of money
I’m not worthy of a loving relationship
If I don’t overdo and over busy, I’ll turn into a bag lady
If I trust him/her, I’ll get disappointed
Life is full of struggle and suffering
I never get what I want
These beliefs and thoughts keep us trapped and confined. It’s as if we’re on a merry go round in our head – stuck in a mental loop that makes it impossible to get – anywhere.
It’s not easy to let go of our limiting beliefs. The only way we can is to challenge them. Ask yourself:
What is the #1 belief or recurring thought that drains my energy, that gets in the way of realizing my dream? Then ask: is it true?
It’s time to let go of the mental patterns and the stories you tell yourself that don’t serve you. It’s time to get over it. You are deserving. You are worthy. You are loved. You are an AWE-INSPIRING being with chocolate sprinkles and a cherry on top.
Open up fully to Yourself and Your Life. Your bright and abundant future awaits.
by Amy Matthews | Jul 22, 2019 | Mindset |
Expectations – it’s difficult not to have them.
We’re ambitious, we have a grand vision for ourselves and our lives. We imagine what we want, we go after it and we want it to look a certain way. When reality doesn’t meet our vision, we naturally get disappointed. Or sad. Or frustrated. Or angry.
Our daily lives are full of expectations, of how situations will be like or what another person will do. You know what I mean.
You don’t get the promotion when you deserve it
A friend flakes on you at the last minute
Your “dream” vacation ends up being a “reality” vacation
After extensive interviews, you don’t get the job
The launch is a flop
Your partner/spouse doesn’t do what he/she says he/she will do
Your Match or Tinder date looks 10 years older than his/her profile picture
The restaurant that took 2 months to get into is just ok
Expectations are a breeding ground for not feeling good. They block our happiness. They keep us living in the future rather than in-joying living in the present. By all means, have high standards, intentions, clear goals and a vision for where you want to go. But try your best to not get attached to a picture, a certain outcome.
You get to decide whether or not to fall into the expectation trap. Ease up on yourself, and the people in your life. Celebrate the now. Be in the moment. Set yourself up to be pleasantly surprised.Your happiness is up to You.
by Amy Matthews | Jun 25, 2019 | Mindset |
I was getting a mani pedi on Saturday at a local salon in my home town of Sausalito. The two women doing my nails were talking about how they wanted breast implants and wished they had pink skin vs yellow.
I was struck by the conversation.
No matter what age, ethnicity, demographic, life circumstance, demographic – all women – at some point – have wanted to be different in some way.
We’ve been socialized to not love ourselves for who we are. The media has brainwashed us, told us what beauty is and isn’t. The result is many of us feel shame and defective in some way. The lack of confidence and self esteem makes us feelnot good enough. We fall into the trap of thinking that if only we change our bodies, our faces, we will feel better and, life will be better.
What I think we all yearn for is a deep level of ease and a knowing that we are OK, just as we are. No matter what we do to change ourselves on the outside, if we don’t also change our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves, change won’t last. The truth is,
confidence is an inside job.
I used to want straight hair, olive skin, a smaller nose, smaller thighs. Sometimes I still do 🙂 but for the most part, I’ve learned to love and accept myself – just as I am. I’m super grateful for my healthy body and all it does for me.
You are OK just the way you are. It’s time to fall deeply in love with yourself and your body. Give your body some lovin’ and gratitude – every single day.
by Amy Matthews | Jun 18, 2019 | Inspiration |
Woo hoo – summer officially starts Friday! It’s Summer Solstice and it’s time to celebrate.
The longest day of the year is a great day to acknowledge all you’ve created and reflect on what you want to create in the next 6 months, to make 2019 your best year – ever. It’s also about slowing down, taking a load off, easing your foot off the accelerator – shifting into cruise control – knowing you will get where you want to go.
It’s about bringing more light to your life and shining your light more brightly.
It’s a perfect time to ask:
Where do I want more light in my life?
What do I want to bring in?
What do I want less of?
Perhaps you want to bring in more joy and FREEDOM. More spontaneity. More connection and presence. More LOVE. More ROOM for yourself. More peace and serenity. More FUN.
More barbecues, music, sultry nights, hanging at the lake, walks in freshly cut
grass, family time. (Fill in the blank) __________.
And, you want less of not feeling good, doubting yourself and your actions, being
your worst critic and “not feeling enough.”
Less worry, fewer hours at work, sleepless nights. (Fill in the blank) __________.
It’s up to you – you can design the life you want. Be intentional, think positive thoughts and take repeated action. Trust yourself, bring a lighter version of YOU to YOU and your LIFE.
Let your light shine.
