by Amy Matthews | Feb 21, 2019 | In-Power |
I had a glass of wine with a woman who I recently met at an event. She’s in her mid to late 40s, beautiful, self aware, accomplished and down to earth. We started chatting and the conversation led to dating.
She told me she has a history of dating uber successful men. The type of man who wants a woman to support his agenda and his success, who prefers a woman to be the silent power in the relationship.
She said: “I need to learn to be that kind of woman but that’s not who I am.”
I said: “Then why learn to be that kind of woman?”
Many of us have been conditioned to play the supporting role in our own lives. We learned from the women that came before us. Instead of pursuing our own passions and dreams, we help husbands, partners, children, clients, friends, you name it, pursue theirs. We put their wants and needs and wellbeing before our own. Why? Because we think it’s our role. Whether you relate or not, we all know women to nominate for best supporting actress in real life.
I just saw the movie, The Wife. Glenn Close plays a dutiful and devoted wife, willing to sacrifice herself so her husband can ultimately receive the highest of honors and recognition. My favorite line in the movie is when her husband’s colleague asks her what she does. She replies; “I am a king maker.”
History will repeat itself, unless you choose differently. Unless you become front and center in your own life. Unless you rise up to what you really want and help other women do the same. Unless you wholeheartedly believe you are a Queen.
Be your very own queen maker. Your time is now.
by Amy Matthews | Feb 14, 2019 | Inspiration |
I’ve always loved Valentine’s Day. It brings back fond memories of making hand made valentine’s with doilies and the boxes of candy hearts I put on them. I have to say, they were always a hit with my grade school class! Remembering the innocence, anticipation and excitement I felt warms my heart.
It’s such a great reminder to be open to love of all kinds. In addition to giving and receiving love from a partner, family, friends, pets, clients and strangers – give yourself the love and appreciation you deserve. Here are a few ways to do just that:
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Respect Your Desires and Boundaries
Give Yourself Permission to Do What You Want
Speak Kindly to Yourself – Always
Be as loving to yourself as you are to every other person in your life. It’s never too late to fall in love with yourself. Instead of: Will You Be Mine? How about: I Am Mine!
by Amy Matthews | Feb 4, 2019 | Mindset |
It’s February! Winter weather with its grey skies, crazy cold temps, torrential rain and snow can make some of us feel blue. Or unmotivated, bored or even listless. If you’re in need of a pick me up, here are ten ways to nip those feelings in the bud.
1) Plan an adventure or better yet, go on one!
2) Exercise – no matter what. Endorphins always make us feel better
3) Adorn yourself with a splash of color. Try pink, deep blue, orange and red!
4) Cozy up with a juicy novel and a comfy throw
5) Create a vision board. I’m creating one for the relationship I’m manifesting 🙂
6) Make homemade, organic soup with lots of veggies
7) Soak in a candlelit bath with deliciously scented salts or bubbles
8) Use essential oils like geranium, bergamot or lavender to lift your mood
9) Create a magical ambiance with candles everywhere!
10) Buy yourself some daffodils, tulips or red roses
We only get one February a year so make the most out of it! Surround yourself with beauty and inspiration. Bring simple, sensual pleasures into your life that nurture your heart, mind, body and soul.
Choose what makes you feel good. Lift yourself up.
by Amy Matthews | Jan 30, 2019 | Inspiration |
I stopped by a boutique on Saturday and as I perused the store, I chatted with the owner. She asked me what I do for a living and our conversation unfolded.
She told me that some of the women who frequent her store seem to be missing something in their lives. Even though they are privileged and “living the dream”, something isn’t quite right. I asked: what do you think it is? She said, they lack inspiration and passion.
We’ve all felt uninspired at some point in our lives. I certainly have. Situations like a controlling boss, getting fired, a difficult breakup, feeling stuck or sheer boredom can deplete us and take its toll on our well-being.
Our souls need food just like our bodies and as we know, all food isn’t created equal!
Fill up your soul with nutritious, delicious food. Take 5 minutes to answer these three questions:
On a scale from 1-10, how full is my soul?
What inspires me?
What am I committed to doing today to feed my soul?
Nourish your soul – everyday. It’s fuel for living a joyous and abundant life.
by Amy Matthews | Jan 15, 2019 | In-Power |
I find this to be true among women:
No matter what a woman does, whether an aspiring entrepreneur, company executive, artist, social worker, stay at home mom, whether living a lavish or modest life, no matter her life circumstances, women struggle with putting themselves first.
It’s a core issue that keep us small and gets in the way of embracing our power.
We were taught to take care of others before ourselves. We are wired to prioritize
the needs of others over our own. We learned it was the right thing to do. For many women, it defines who they are. So no wonder, when I say, Put Yourself First, many women are baffled! I’m told they don’t know how, that they’ll feel guilty or at the very least, uncomfortable.
To live a life you’ve never lived, you need to do things you’ve never done. It won’t always be easy or feel comfortable. But here’s the thing: when you start making yourself a priority, you’ll feel deliciously good about YOU.
This week, consider your needs and desires, without thinking about others first. Write a list of things you can immediately do for yourself. Go for a walk or hike, sign up for that new class, schedule time with your boss to ask for the promotion, take a bubble bath, schedule a massage…you get the drill. Your homework for today and every single day:take care of yourself before taking care of others.
What gift will you give yourself today?
