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Considering A Career Pivot? Read this.

Considering A Career Pivot? Read this.

by | Feb 2, 2023 | Blog, Business, In-Power | 0 comments

It’s a brand-spanking new year, So what’s next for you?

With all the changes over the past three years, it still can feel like the landscape is shifting under our feet. Many clients, friends and others I talk with are reconsidering what they believe in, value, and want from their careers.

Here are a few examples:

  • Some laid off, feeling confused, doubting themselves, their skills, and their value.
  • Others wake up most days with a nagging feeling of not being fulfilled, after being on the fast track for years.
  • Another, who is in a soul-sucking job knows she can’t go on another minute. 
  • Entrepreneur clients have come to the conclusion their business model is no longer sustainable.

No matter your current situation, whether you’ve had a recent setback, facing failure you didn’t create or feel you lost your true north, it’s easy for anxiety and to rear its ugly head. When making any change, it’s natural to question what matters, your purpose, direction, and even your very own existence.

After working with hundreds of people to navigate their next position, I’ve learned if you stay grounded, committed, and willing to see it through, you will find your next position – that’s the perfect fit.  I’ve also found that these proven and effective tips will make any career transition easier:

Proven + Effective Tips To Make Any Career Transition Easier

1) BE INTENTIONAL

Develop the criteria that you want in your next position. What industries? What size companies? What’s the role? What are the people and culture like? What attributes in a boss do you want?

2) LEAD WITH AND LEVERAGE YOUR STRENGTHS

Own who you are which includes your strengths, skills, values and passions and what sets you apart from others. Your authenticity is your strongest asset.

3) BE DISCERNING AND HAVE AN ABUNDANT MINDSET

Think quality over quantity. If a company or position doesn’t light you up, it’s not for you. There will be others that do. Be committed to what you are looking for, while open to possibilities.

4) DEVELOP A STRATEGY AND PLAN

Start with creating a list of target companies. Research job openings. Get your resume and LI Profile up to snuff. Leverage your LI network and contacts.

5) INTERVIEW PREPARATION

Research and do your homework. Spend three times the amount of time of the actual interview preparing for it. Develop a list of questions you want to ask. Think of it as a first date.

6) TRUST THE PROCESS

More often than not, there will be twists and turns through the process. Hold out for the right position and be confident you will land a meaningful role where you can make a difference.

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How to Thrive in Uncertainty

How to Thrive in Uncertainty

by | Jan 26, 2023 | In-Power, Mindset | 0 comments

I’ve been writing about living with uncertainty for three years now. It’s still a popular topic as our day to day continues to shift. 

Uncertainty is a scary thing for most of us. We crave security and the fear of the unknown has caused anxiety and worry levels to skyrocket on a global level. The truth is, we grew up thinking we had control over situations, outcomes, people, and our environment. Then the events of the last three years happened. It brought us a stark reality we never had control in the first place.

As the new year unfolds, here are a few reminders on how to thrive in uncertainty:

Tips for Thriving In Uncertainty

1) It’s a Part of Life

Learn to Accept It. Wishing and wanting things the way they used to be, only makes us struggle, miserable, and even more fearful. We all know that what we resist, persists. If you find yourself worrying excessively, focus your attention on problems you can solve.

2) Create Different Possibilities

It’s hard not to know what the future holds. Yet, you can be open and plan for other scenarios. Your realm of possibilities lies at the intersection of your unique strengths, skills, values, and passions. Get creative and come up with a Plan B and even a Plan C.

3) Nix Expectations

Unrealistic expectations set you up for disappointment and will take you off your game. I’m a big believer in having high standards, a clear intention and vision, and consistently taking action toward your goals. Just don’t get attached to certain outcomes!

4) Exercise Your Resiliency and Adaptability Muscles

Resiliency is the key to success, especially during stressful times. Being able to reframe a difficult situation into something positive allows you to bounce back more quickly. Consistently exercising these muscles will build strength so you can handle anything that comes your way.

5) Focus on What You Can Control

We have control over many things. Our attitude, routine, the food we eat, exercise, beliefs, thought patterns, actions we take, how we respond to situations, the company we keep, and how we spend our time. Every single day, you get to make empowering choices that support your well-being. 

6) Practice Being Present

Our natural tendency is to run away from uncomfortable thoughts and emotions. That’s where mindfulness and meditation come in. When your mind starts racing, try taking a few deep breaths or a brisk walk. Either will help you shift so you can fully experience what’s happening at the moment.

Change is the only constant in life. You may not know exactly what lies ahead but you can open up and plan for expanded possibilities.

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When nothing is sure, everything is possible. - Margaret Drabble
Decision Making, Made Easy.

Decision Making, Made Easy.

by | Jan 4, 2023 | Business, In-Power | 0 comments

It’s a human need to want to be ourselves and be accepted for who we are.

After my corporate gigs, I joined a start-up as VP of Sales which had just received an unheard amount of capital, a whopping $36 Million in its B round.

The CEO was 32, Stanford MBA, with little leadership and operational experience. To say it kindly, he was a control freak and needed to know my every move. I had been accustomed to a lot of autonomy so it was a bit of a shock and an adjustment. He also wanted the entire team to eat lunch at the company – every day. Lunch was bologna on Wonder bread, which if you know me at all, is not my cup of tea. 

So what did I do? I’d go out and buy a salad.

Early on, the CEO wasn’t receptive to what I had to say, about anything. Again something I wasn’t accustomed to. In retrospect, he may have thought I was rebelling when I spoke up or didn’t eat bologna. The culture was hierarchical, dominating, and fear-based. I knew after the first week, it was a terrible fit. Instead of accepting I had made the wrong choice, I resisted it. I thought I could make it work, which only made me more stressed and miserable. 

No matter the culture – whether it’s within a company, family, romantic relationship or friendship, none of us want to feel contained or controlled. When we feel we can’t be ourselves, it’s natural to shrink, feel suffocated or resentful.

We always have a choice. We can either accept the situation we’re in or not. 

There are pros and cons to every job, relationship or company. You get to choose what’s right for you. Do a Ben Franklin. If there are more pros, then stay. If there are more cons, bring up your concerns, if the situation allows for it. If not, perhaps it’s time to go.

Decision making – made easy. It’s simple if we let it.  

Never Minimize Yourself

It’s Time to Up Level.

It’s Time to Up Level.

by | Jan 3, 2023 | Business, Inspiration | 0 comments

Since the start of the year, I’ve been asking clients what their word is for 2024. I woke up in the morning a few weeks ago to my word, Up-Level.

No matter what your word is, I think every new year starts with:

Clearing out what is no longer necessary, removing anything complicated, zaps your energy, or no longer floats your boat. Getting super clear on what you want to create and aligning your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions to make what you want happen, happen. Quality over quantity in how you show up, what you focus on, what you say, and what you choose to do. 

I’ve been clearing out with a vengeance. Drawers, closets, dressers, bins, cabinets, files, books, shredded papers, organized my kitchen, went to Goodwill, car trunk, went to Goodwill again, shredded some more, dumped all those sample products I get and never use, ice packs in the freezer I’ve been collecting…you know what I mean.

Clearing out always makes room for the new.

I then focus on creating an intentional action plan for the year ahead. (One that puts a huge smile on my face.) I like to start by looking at the eight intertwined areas of life. Then ask questions:

In what area(s) do I want change?

What’s my vision and intention?

What are my priorities and goals?

Where do I need help?

Creating an aligned plan helps to make changes in your life that will accelerate growth, keep you accountable and help you reach your goals the fastest. To make it super easy to create a plan for 2023, download a copy of Your Aligned Impact Plan, right here.

As an old boss of mine used to say:

“You can change a plan but you can’t change a “no plan”.

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The Procrastination + Perfectionism Loop

The Procrastination + Perfectionism Loop

by | Oct 21, 2022 | Blog, Business, Mindset | 0 comments

I recently had a conversation with a client and we talked about how much work he had on his plate, how he was falling behind and the anxiety he was feeling. I asked him a few questions:

Do you consider yourself a procrastinator?

Are you a perfectionist?

Have you always been this way?

I got a resounding YES from all three questions.

I said: “Procrastination always leads to feeling shitty.” He smiled and nodded his head.

80% of high achievers suffer from procrastination due to their high standards and expectations of themselves.

And, people who tend to procrastinate are more likely to be perfectionists. Perfection and procrastination go hand in hand. The truth is, it’s perfectionism that inhibits productivity.

Perfectionists believe they are loved for what they do, how they look, or for Doing It Right. I’m a recovered perfectionist but it still rears its ugly head, usually when I try really hard and don’t get the results I want.

The Perfectionism/Procrastination Loop is like being on a hamster wheel. It begins with having unrealistic standards, then fear of failure sets in, then avoidance comes next to stir up guilt and stress, which leads to thinking and feeling shitty about yourself.

if i waited for perfection, i would never right a word. Margaret atwood

Here are my 5 tips to break the perfectionism cycle:

1. Ask yourself, why do I believe I need to be perfect?
Most likely, it was how you learned to get love as a small child. Once you ask yourself, ask the question again, I bet you’ll get a different answer. You’ll recognize that you are loved for who you are – not for what you accomplish.

2. Stop second-guessing.
Doubting yourself and your actions is usually about what happened in the past. “Should I have handled the situation differently?” Start trusting yourself and the decisions you make. If you focus on what’s happening now, you can make a positive impact.

3. Release the judgment.
It only leads to a negative view of everything – yourself, situations and all the people who truly matter to you. Judgment dilutes your vitality. Instead, direct your energy into what you love and what inspires you.

4. Stop being your worst critic.
“Who are you to think less of yourself than others do? Belittling yourself is so passé. It’s time to learn to be kind and gentle with yourself.

5. Let go of unrealistic expectations of yourself and others.
Expectations only create disappointment, especially if they aren’t met. Be open to how things unfold. The outcome may be better than you imagined.

Having high standards and working hard to achieve goals is how you get ahead in life. Just don’t let it affect your happiness and those around you.

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