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6 Communication Strategies for Any Difficult Conversation

6 Communication Strategies for Any Difficult Conversation

by | Sep 14, 2022 | Blog, Business, In-Power | 0 comments

Remember when we could sweep an issue under the rug, put our head in the sand and pray it would go away?

Communication and the ability to influence is the #1 skill for every single one of us. Yet when conflict arises, it’s the first thing that gets tossed out the window.

 

Here are a few situations I’ve helped my clients navigate lately:

👉 A client works for a large Silicon Valley company. He’s a top, individual contributor yet is being asked to lead his teammates and do the job of two people. He is stressed and sleep-deprived. We talked about what to say to his boss but he said she wouldn’t understand.

👉 A client runs the Americas division for a well-known corporation. A member of his team is not cutting it, he’s not focused on bringing in more revenue. We discussed what he needs to say to his employee. He still hasn’t had the conversation.

👉A client’s in-laws came to stay the night and forgot to mention they weren’t feeling well. Oops. My client’s entire family got Covid. She was livid…how dare they? We discussed how to have “the honest conversation” so something like this wouldn’t happen again. She decided to not rock the boat.

👉 Another client is in real estate. She has a partner and for the last five years, helped build a thriving business. She now wants to pursue another career and told her partner but now she is avoiding her. We discussed how to have “the honest conversation” to get back on the same page.

 

Here are my 6 simple and proven communication strategies for any difficult conversation you embark on:

1. Be Prepared – Know what you want to say ahead of time

2. Be Clear – Keep it clear and concise

3. Be Confident – be strong in your point of view

4. Be Thoughtful – speak with compassion and empathy

5. Be Grounded – eliminate distractions, stay present and listen

6. Be Open – look for synergistic outcomes

You can have a connected conversation, stand in your truth, be kind and caring – AND – get the results you want.

I have helped hundreds of professionals get clear on how to say what they want to say. whether it be to a boss, employee, client, colleague, romantic partner, or friend.

If you’ve been putting off “the difficult conversation”, book a free 30-minute clarity call with me right here.

What do you Want to Reignite in Your Life?

What do you Want to Reignite in Your Life?

by | Jun 29, 2022 | Blog, Inspiration | 0 comments

I feel a sense of spaciousness in the air, do you? The 4th of July is about personal freedom, independence and celebration. It’s one of the few days of the year we all have permission to kick back, relax and leave our worries behind. There’s nothing to do except hang with friends, family and community.

Then there are the fireworks which I’m crazy about. I feel a sense of joy, wonder and excitement, every time I see them. As if I was 6 years old again. Our reactions to them are priceless – the OOHHS, AAHHS, WOWS….and LOVE that ONE!

What if we created our life the same way? Instead of “overthinking it” which is so easy to do, we approached each day with joy and anticipation, open to the element of surprise and the WOWS?

We’re halfway through 2022. Think about what you want to ignite in your life.

Perhaps it’s to:

  • Renew your sense of purpose
  • Revive your love life
  • Fuel your business or career with passion and dedication
  • Make more $$$$
  • Be more present to yourself and loved ones
  • Rejuvenate and re-energize
  • Have more sex AND sleep
  • Be committed to joy and ease
  • Prioritize your dreams
  • Have more FUN

What is it for you? 

It doesn’t have to be just one thing.

Whatever you want to create more of in your life, get clear on what it is. 

Own it. 

Be intentional about it.

Take action towards it.

Be open to the WOWS.

Trust, believe and have faith that you will manifest it.

Happy 4th!  Wishing you a freedom filled, joyful holiday and week ahead.

Own What You Want

Boundaries Create More Freedom

Boundaries Create More Freedom

by | Jun 27, 2022 | Blog, In-Power | 0 comments

Freedom is top of mind these days, on so many fronts. To boot, we celebrated
Juneteenth this weekend and July 4th 🎉  is just around the corner.

Freedom: “the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without restraint.”

The very word conjures up the feeling of “Let It Rip!”

The truth is, in order to feel free, we have to set limits.

The need for boundaries is everywhere.

Boundaries at work, with clients, with spouses/partners, children, friends and even neighbors.

There will always be someone who pushes your boundaries.

I hear these issues from clients:

The boss who reaches out at all hours of the night

The CEO who demands you to be available 24/7

The controlling client who doesn’t trust you “got this”

The friend who asks for advice – on his/her schedule

The colleague who is just so…annoying

The partner who flings his “stuff” everywhere

At our core, we know boundaries are important, yet we struggle to create them. We believe if we say No, we’ll be rejected. Or judged. Or labeled. Or not loved.

Our mental chatter goes something like this:

If I say “No”, to a proposed deadline, she/he/they won’t be my client

If I say “No”, I might get fired

If I say “No”, I won’t get the promotion

If I say “No”, she/he/they will move on to someone else

If I say “No”, my child will rebel

Whatever the chatter, try to let it go.

I’m a big believer in saying YES but not all the time.

Freedom begins with saying NO.

Boundaries are essential to our personal well being and mental health. They give us the room we crave and enable us to thrive.

Take your next step towards a breakthrough on creating boundaries. Schedule a 30 minute clarity call with me here:

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5 Tips for More Freedom!

5 Tips for More Freedom!

by | Jun 7, 2022 | Inspiration | 0 comments

Woman UnRuled is about living a life with #No Regrets. What most matters to me is to inspire and empower people to live extraordinary lives. It’s my job to encourage my clients, friends and family to “UnRule their Lives” and then, take action towards what they really want: what brings more joy to them. Every single day.

So how can you bring more freedom into your life? I think it’s about creating more space in your mind, body and soul. Here are 5 tips I make space, and thus freedom, in my life.

#1 Take a Yoga Class
I love yoga. For me, It’s less about exercise for my body, and more about exercise for my mind and spirit. It brings more room and freedom into my brain. I breathe more deeply, my mind calms down and I’m able to get in touch with my true essence, who I really am. I always look at things differently after class than before class. It makes me feel more grateful and at peace.

#2 Change Your Mind
I never used to waiver from doing what I said I would do. I now allow myself to change my mind and I try to do things which feel right to me in the moment vs. being a slave to my calendar. I can’t do it all the time, but when I do, it’s such a liberating feeling and life is more spontaneous and fun!

#3 Clean Out Your Closet
We all know that getting rid of things that you don’t want or need any more frees up space. Not only does it create more physical room in your home or environment, it also creates more space in your mind. Many years ago, I took a weekend workshop and the instructor told us to go home and clean something out, like a drawer or a closet. The message stuck with me. Whenever I clean out a closet, I know I am making room for new things to come into my life.

#4 Ask – Why Not?
Recently I was on vacation in Morocco and fell in love with Marrakech. I was traveling with a friend and because I liked the city so much, she said, “why don’t you stay?” At first I told her that I had to get back, I have a new campaign to launch, I have clients and responsibilities. Then I tried her idea on – I called the airlines and I checked to see if the hotel had availability. Basically, I wanted to see if logistically, it was feasible. When I found out all systems were a go, I sat with it. By allowing myself to have a choice, I knew I could do anything I wanted. Though I ended up choosing not to extend my trip, letting myself experience what was possible helped create more freedom for myself in the moment!

#5 Do Something New Each Week
Whether it’s taking the scenic route home from work, cooking a new recipe, or trying a new workout, novelty gets you out of your comfort zone and wakes you up in a way that is exciting. Invite a new friend out for lunch. Take a class to learn how to do videos on your phone. Every time you stretch towards something new, you’ll feel a sense of joy and freedom. So do it often!

Join me for a 7 Day #BreakFree Challenge to bring greater freedom into your life. It’s Free. I’ll give you one specific action step each day for a full week. In just seven days, you’ll feel more empowered, energized, and inspired! That’s a promise. Join here. womanunruled.pages.ontraport.net/breakfree

Would you like more freedom in your life? I’m on a mission to help 100 women #BreakFree by the year’s end. I’m offering a free 30 minute coaching session.

Sign up for your free 30 minute coaching session here.
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High Performance – Debunked.

High Performance – Debunked.

by | May 27, 2022 | Blog, Business, Mindset | 0 comments

So you are a self-professed high performer. You excel at what you do.

It’s just who you are. You’ve worked hard to cultivate a high-performing mindset. 

✔️ You’re on it and run circles around everyone

✔️ You have clarity, especially about the BIG stuff

✔️ Your work/life balance is in check 

✔️ You speak up and communicate with compassion AND conviction

✔️ You have courage – in spades 

✔️ You make sound and timely decisions

✔️ You’re comfortable in your skin and able to laugh at yourself

✔️ You even rein in your anxiety, ‘cause you know everyone has some 

✔️ You feel joy on a regular basis

 

Congratulations. You’ve made it. You have the world by the tail. Yet, there are times when you fall into traps like these that take you off your game.

✔️ Looking ‘good’ at all costs 

✔️ People pleasing

✔️ Comparing yourself to what others say, do, and have

✔️ Doing things the way you’ve always done

✔️ Striving for recognition and approval

✔️ Controlling people and outcomes

✔️ Addiction to over-doing, over-busy and over-working

A high-performing mindset IS NOT these things.

 

One minute you feel more confident than ever, the next you don’t. That recurring belief you thought you tackled YEARS AGO, rears its ugly head. You know what I mean..the belief ‘I am not good enough’. It comes back to haunt you when things don’t go your way or according to your plan, when you’re out of your comfort zone, or get feedback you don’t like. Moments ago you were feeling AWESOME but now you’re feeling sad and like a LOSER.

 

If this resonates, I got news for you. Your Identity and self-esteem are tied up in your performance. And that’s always a no-win situation.

Contrary to popular belief:

👉 You are not what you do.
👉 You are not what you accomplish.
👉 You are not what people think of you.
👉 You are not how many likes you get.
👉 You are not how much money you make.

 
To move out of the “Not Enough Syndrome”, I can help. Book a free clarity call with me below.

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