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Boundaries Create More Freedom

Boundaries Create More Freedom

by | Jun 27, 2022 | Blog, In-Power | 0 comments

Freedom is top of mind these days, on so many fronts. To boot, we celebrated
Juneteenth this weekend and July 4th šŸŽ‰Ā  is just around the corner.

Freedom: ā€œthe power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without restraint.ā€

The very word conjures up the feeling of ā€œLet It Rip!ā€

The truth is, in order to feel free, we have to set limits.

The need for boundaries is everywhere.

Boundaries at work, with clients, with spouses/partners, children, friends and even neighbors.

There will always be someone who pushes your boundaries.

I hear these issues from clients:

The boss who reaches out at all hours of the night

The CEO who demands you to be available 24/7

The controlling client who doesnā€™t trust you ā€œgot thisā€

The friend who asks for advice – on his/her schedule

The colleague who is just so…annoying

The partner who flings his “stuff” everywhere

At our core, we know boundaries are important, yet we struggle to create them. We believe if we say No, weā€™ll be rejected. Or judged. Or labeled. Or not loved.

Our mental chatter goes something like this:

If I say “No”, to a proposed deadline, she/he/they wonā€™t be my client

If I say “No”, I might get fired

If I say “No”, I wonā€™t get the promotion

If I say “No”, she/he/they will move on to someone else

If I say “No”, my child will rebel

Whatever the chatter, try to let it go.

I’m a big believer in saying YES but not all the time.

Freedom begins with saying NO.

Boundaries are essential to our personal well being and mental health. They give us the room we crave and enable us to thrive.

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5 Tips for More Freedom!

5 Tips for More Freedom!

by | Jun 7, 2022 | Inspiration | 0 comments

Woman UnRuled is about living a life with #No Regrets. What most matters to me is to inspire and empower people to live extraordinary lives. Itā€™s my job to encourage my clients, friends and family to ā€œUnRule their Livesā€ and then, take action towards what they really want: what brings more joy to them. Every single day.

So how can you bring more freedom into your life? I think itā€™s about creating more space in your mind, body and soul. Here are 5 tips I make space, and thus freedom, in my life.

#1 Take a Yoga Class
I love yoga. For me, Itā€™s less about exercise for my body, and more about exercise for my mind and spirit. It brings more room and freedom into my brain. I breathe more deeply, my mind calms down and Iā€™m able to get in touch with my true essence, who I really am. I always look at things differently after class than before class. It makes me feel more grateful and at peace.

#2 Change Your Mind
I never used to waiver from doing what I said I would do. I now allow myself to change my mind and I try to do things which feel right to me in the moment vs. being a slave to my calendar. I canā€™t do it all the time, but when I do, itā€™s such a liberating feeling and life is more spontaneous and fun!

#3 Clean Out Your Closet
We all know that getting rid of things that you donā€™t want or need any more frees up space. Not only does it create more physical room in your home or environment, it also creates more space in your mind. Many years ago, I took a weekend workshop and the instructor told us to go home and clean something out, like a drawer or a closet. The message stuck with me. Whenever I clean out a closet, I know I am making room for new things to come into my life.

#4 Ask – Why Not?
Recently I was on vacation in Morocco and fell in love with Marrakech. I was traveling with a friend and because I liked the city so much, she said, ā€œwhy donā€™t you stay?ā€ At first I told her that I had to get back, I have a new campaign to launch, I have clients and responsibilities. Then I tried her idea on – I called the airlines and I checked to see if the hotel had availability. Basically, I wanted to see if logistically, it was feasible. When I found out all systems were a go, I sat with it. By allowing myself to have a choice, I knew I could do anything I wanted. Though I ended up choosing not to extend my trip, letting myself experience what was possible helped create more freedom for myself in the moment!

#5 Do Something New Each Week
Whether itā€™s taking the scenic route home from work, cooking a new recipe, or trying a new workout, novelty gets you out of your comfort zone and wakes you up in a way that is exciting. Invite a new friend out for lunch. Take a class to learn how to do videos on your phone. Every time you stretch towards something new, youā€™ll feel a sense of joy and freedom. So do it often!

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High Performance – Debunked.

High Performance – Debunked.

by | May 27, 2022 | Blog, Business, Mindset | 0 comments

So you are a self-professed high performer. You excel at what you do.

Itā€™s just who you are.Ā You’ve worked hard to cultivate a high-performing mindset.Ā 

āœ”ļø Youā€™re on it and run circles around everyone

āœ”ļø You have clarity, especially about the BIG stuff

āœ”ļø Your work/life balance is in checkĀ 

āœ”ļø You speak up and communicate with compassion AND conviction

āœ”ļø You have courage – in spadesĀ 

āœ”ļø You make sound and timely decisions

āœ”ļø Youā€™re comfortable in your skin and able to laugh at yourself

āœ”ļø You even rein in your anxiety, ā€˜cause you know everyone has someĀ 

āœ”ļø You feel joy on a regular basis

 

Congratulations. You’ve made it. You have the world by the tail. Yet, there are times when you fall into traps like these that take you off your game.

āœ”ļø Looking ‘good’ at all costsĀ 

āœ”ļø People pleasing

āœ”ļø Comparing yourself to what others say, do, and have

āœ”ļø Doing things the way you’ve always done

āœ”ļø Striving forĀ recognition and approval

āœ”ļø ControllingĀ people and outcomes

āœ”ļø Addiction to over-doing, over-busy and over-working

A high-performing mindset IS NOT these things.

 

One minute you feel more confident than ever, the next you don’t. That recurring belief you thought you tackled YEARS AGO, rears its ugly head. You know what I mean..theĀ belief ‘I am not good enough’. It comes back to haunt you when things don’t go your way or according to your plan, when you’re out of your comfort zone, or get feedback you don’t like. Moments ago you were feeling AWESOME but now you’re feeling sad and like a LOSER.

 

If this resonates, I got news for you. Your Identity and self-esteem are tied up in your performance. And that’s always a no-win situation.

Contrary to popular belief:

šŸ‘‰ You are not what you do.
šŸ‘‰ You are not what you accomplish.
šŸ‘‰ You are not what people think of you.
šŸ‘‰ You are not how many likes you get.
šŸ‘‰ You are not how much money you make.

Ā 
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Turn Your Anxiety into Excitement.

Turn Your Anxiety into Excitement.

by | Apr 13, 2022 | Blog, In-Power, Mindset | 0 comments

My days are filled with coaching high-performing individuals and teams. Not only are my clients driven, but they also have demanding jobs. I often witness various levels of anxiety, mainly due to stress.

I can relate. When I was in the corporate world, my anxiety was off the charts. I had a big job, a big team, a big revenue number, and traveled non-stop. I was under pressure to perform, no question. But I put undue added pressure on myself. An unrealistic amount as many overachievers do.

Across the board, anxiety is at an all-time high. Over 300 Million people worldwide struggle with it. We’ve all been touched by anxiety, whether experiencing it firsthand or with someone we know. Some people tout that anxiety is a good thing. That it motivates us, makes us perform better, be better. I think that’s BS.

To achieve what we want to achieve, we don’t need to be stressed out, strive, struggle, over-perform and unhappy. To achieve what we want to achieve, we need excitement, not anxiety.

The word “anxious” is overused in conversation which only adds to spreading more anxiety! How often do you hear someone say:

  • I’m anxious to hear about your trip
  • How did your interview go? I’m anxious to hear about it
  • I’m anxious to learn what happened in the meeting
  • I’m anxious to hear about your date

Anxiety is a feeling of worry or nervousness. Excitement, on the other hand, is a feeling of great enthusiasm and interest.

Your words are impactful. Choose them wisely.

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How to Keep Relationships from Going Sideways.

How to Keep Relationships from Going Sideways.

by | Mar 31, 2022 | Blog, Inspiration | 0 comments

I conducted a workshop last week with a group of financial advisors. The team works for a division of a large bank, think household name.

The purpose of the workshop was twofold: for individuals to feel more confident about their unique talents and to build a stronger team identity based on the collective attributes of the team. When I conduct these workshops, I ask attendees to get input on how others see and value them.

The group was eager to give each other feedback. Without any prompting, they genuinely went on about how they appreciated one other. It was wonderful to witness! The energy of the group lifted.

This was one comment:

Thank you, Amy! It was a great bonding opportunity between myself and my fellow team members.

Fast forward to what happened at the Academy Awards. Social media and the news has been all over it so no need to comment. What I will say is the situation made me think about this:

Every person on the planet wants to be loved, accepted, appreciated and respected. This isnā€™t a big aha..we know this. But when we get too busy or stressed or have a deadline or “in our stuff”, we can forget to take time to appreciate others.

Appreciation is like gratitude on steroids. It lifts people up, connects us and builds community. And in turn, it lifts you up.

Appreciation begets appreciation. Spread some today.

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