Women and men can be so hard on themselves. We can be our own worst enemies. If this sounds like you or a person you know, read on!
Early in life, we learn there is “a right way to be, look and act” and “a wrong way to be, look and act”. Because our need for approval, love and acceptance is strong, we absorb these potent messages from society and our families. Without realizing it, we conform. We try to “do it right“. We try to fit in to avoid rejection, criticism and even abandonment. Makes sense to me.
But here’s the deal:
When we fall short or don’t match up to the “perfect ideals” that are placed upon us, we judge ourselves. We criticize ourselves. We doubt our actions. We feel less than. We eventually adopt the belief that “we’re not good enough.”
We all have a “not enough” story. Not smart enough, beautiful enough, powerful enough, thin enough, articulate enough – the list goes on. Whatever it is for you, at some point, you gotta ask:
Is my “not enough” belief true?
Bet not. Empower yourself and create a new story.
Do I want to be other than who I really am?
Nope. Being anyone other than YOU doesn’t feel good.
Do I want to think less of me than others do?
No. Belittling yourself keeps you small. It keeps you in comparison mode.
The truth is, trying to be perfect is a waste of your precious energy because there is no such thing as perfection! Cut yourself some slack. Love yourself up, just the way you are. Become besties with your perfectly, imperfect self.
In a world where you can be anything, be kind. Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others.
Be kind to the world in which you live.
