Speaking our truth is essential to living a life of authenticity and passion. For many of us it’s not easy, we’d rather run for cover than to speak what’s really on our mind.
I think it’s hard because we care. We care deeply about the feelings of others, often more than we care about our own. We also fear we’ll get backlash and worry about the consequences. Here are some common fears of speaking our truth:
What if he goes ballistic?
What if she turns on me?
What if it jeopardizes my job?
What if it ends our relationship?
Can you relate to any of the above? I’ve helped many people throughout my life – clients, employees, teams, family and friends – get clear on what they want to say and say it, both verbally and in written communication. I learned this at the ripe age of 16, living with my parents who loved each other but had an acrimonious relationship. Hence, the beginning of my mediation skills.
The truth is, it’s not your job to manage the feelings of others. Your job is to:
Have the courage and speak from your heart
Keep it short and simple, two sentences to start the conversation
Communicate with clarity, confidence and compassion
Be real and present, don’t focus on the outcome
Don’t expect it to go perfectly. Like trying anything new, it takes practice!
Communicating authentically gives you greater power and freedom in your life. Who doesn’t want that? Try it. With experience, you will get the results you want, I promise.
If you have trepidation about communicating in a work situation or in your personal life, I can help.
Sign up for your free 30 Minute Clarity Call with me here.
