I’ve had several conversations with clients this week who told me they are in a rut. They all want to move forward in an area of their lives yet they are struggling.
The specific reasons differ, but a common theme is they are judging themselves. They have thoughts like: I feel so stuck! This isn’t like me! Why am I not taking action? Why can she/he/they move forward and I can’t? Am I going to be like this forever? I am such a loser! If you feel at all this way, know you are not alone! We’ve all been there at some point in our lives.
Here’s a process to help you move through a rut:
1. Acknowledge you are feeling stuck.
Accept where you’re at and most importantly, have compassion for yourself! The moment you do, things will start to shift.
2. Begin to ask: Why do I feel this way?
Maybe you are exhausted. Or grieving. Or not connected with your purpose.Or really scared of change. Whatever your reason, give yourself some space and breathing room, as much as you need. Write down your thoughts or hit record while you’re out for a walk. Your intention is to get it all out of your head!
3. Consider the reasons staying stuck serves you.
The truth is, there is always a reason! Perhaps staying where you’re at is comfortable and safe, even though you may feel miserable most of the time. This may be an aha moment. Jot down your answers!
4. Then ask: Am I more committed to staying stuck or getting unstuck?
Be clear and honest with yourself in the moment. Your answer will give you information. Depending upon your situation, you may not be ready to move forward and that’s okay. Timing is everything.
5. Once you are ready and committed to moving forward, ask this:
What reoccurring belief is keeping me from what I want? It could be something like: What if I fail? What if I get rejected? What will people think of me? Who am I to think I can be or have that?
When we move out of our comfort zone, limiting beliefs always pop up, especially, when we decide to go after what we want most. The truth is, these beliefs holding us hostage are never true! It’s our job to bust through them and get to the other side, where our abundant life awaits.
