11 Rules To Break To Set Yourself Free

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Over the past 5 1/2 years since I founded my company, I’ve written and talked a ton about giving ourselves permission to be, do, think and say – who and what we want. Even though it’s our birthright to express ourselves authentically, some of us poo poo it. We’ve been conditioned by society that to get what we want – whether it be love, approval or success – we need to be and act a certain way. 

No wonder. Women are taught to be good girls. To not rock the boat. To be demure. To not be ‘too big’. To put others first, always. Men are taught to be good boys. To be strong. To be in charge. To not share their feelings. To Man Up.   

Following these rules leads to judging ourselves because we hold ourselves to such high standards. When we judge ourselves and play the comparison game, we end up judging everyone else in our lives. Nobody wants to be on the receiving end of that.

Here are a few things I’ve heard from clients and friends most recently:

I’m ashamed I let off steam, sang and danced wildly. it’s just not appropriate.

If I am honest and candid with my boss, she will think I’m complaining.

If I speak up on zoom calls, I’m concerned I’ll come across as too direct.

I can’t express my needs to my partner. I don’t want to come across as needy.

The truth is, the rules have changed. There hasn’t been a better time to #Breakfree from  the rules that trap us, keep us small, keep us quiet, keep us safe, keep us “appropriate.” The new world after COVID will demand it of us so we might as well start making permanent changes now.

It’s time to give ourselves permission to show up unapologetically. It’s time to let our authentic selves shine and share our truth. It’s time to filter out the old rules that no longer serve and replace them with new ones that bring more joy and freedom into our lives. 

What rules are you giving yourself permission to throw out? I liken it to cleaning out your closet. Get rid of the stuff that no longer resonates so you have room for the new.

 

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