I have wanted a relationship for some time. At least I say do. The truth is, I put very little focus and energy into the dating process. It’s just hasn’t been top of mind. Then COVID came along and to say the least, dating is different now.
I talked to my coach yesterday. Part of the conversation went like this:
A: What is standing in the way of me meeting my guy?
K: What do you think it is?
A: I don’t make it a priority.
K: You’re afraid to give up your independence. You have been very free. You see partnering as a compromise and it would be a big change for you.
A: So my attachment to independence is in the way of getting what I want?
K: Yep.
A: I see it clearly now. I gotta open up to a different way.
I’ve said this many times: we’re the ones in the way of what we want most. I love it was pointed out to me, it shows that I’m always learning and growing. After the conversation, I had this thought: why do I think it has to be an either or?
You can have a demanding job and feel balanced. You can have a house full of kids and feel at ease. Or in my case, you can have a committed, long-lasting relationship and feel independent, some of the time.
It’s all possible. Open up to what you want and own it.
Join me and Maia Monell, Co-founder of Nav.it for a webinar, “Embracing Vulnerability”. It’s tomorrow at 11 am Pacific/2 pm Eastern! Nav.it is a super cool financial wellness company focused on empowering millennials. You can sign up for the class here.
