Most of us were brought up to care too much about what others think of us and the actions we take. Before making a big decision, we consult everyone in our circle. The conversation goes something like this:
“What’s your opinion?” “What do you think I should do?” “What would you do?”
Without realizing it, we give away our power to the other person.
The truth is, as women, we weren’t taught to be the authority of our lives.
When you care too much what people think of you and your ideas, especially loved ones like parents, siblings, spouse, partner or close friends, you give more weight to what others think than what you actually think and feel is the right thing to do. Other people’s advice, if not similar to your own, can stop you from pursuing what your mind, heart and intuition is telling you. It’s disempowering. It can keep you stuck.
I see this with clients and friends often. It’s not easy to make decisions without asking others for their opinion. It takes courage. It can be scary. It’s easier to defer to others. Here’s the deal. Ultimately, the buck stops with you. To be the authority of your own life, you have to learn to cut through the noise of what others tell you so you can hear your own true voice inside.
Once you do, you’ll feel more confident in taking action that serves YOU.
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