We all have mixed feelings at times. I certainly do, seriously – who doesn’t! You know what I mean, when it’s hard to choose or decide because your head tells you one thing and your heart says another.
Here are a few ways it plays out:
“I’d love to pursue my passion but I CAN’T. I need the security my job gives me, even though It sucks me dry.”
“I’m super attracted to this person and we have so much fun together. BUT I have a different picture, he/she isn’t “who I thought I’d be with”.
“I don’t want to go to the party – it will be boring. Yet I’m OBLIGATED because I said I would go. I need to do the “right” thing that’s who I am.”
Our analytical minds guide us in many ways but often its advice is geared to the “shoulds” in life – how it “should” look, how you “should” be, what you “should” do or look like. Shoulds drain our energy and are joy killers. They keep us stuck, in question mode, feeling ambivalent. They keep us from taking action towards what we want most.
To get your head and heart aligned, ask yourself these questions.
What thoughts, beliefs and feelings are in the way of doing what I really want?
What does my heart say?
Will I regret NOT doing this?
What’s the worst thing that can happen if I go for it?
Write down your answers. Confusion will naturally diffuse once you start writing.
Trust clarity will come. A NO can turn into a YES at any time.
